2 Reasons Why People Don’t Want to Collaborate With You

If most work environment, you’re asked to collaborate with others. As you can imagine, this isn’t without its challenges. People have different personalities, expertise, values, cultural backgrounds, etc.

There are two main reasons why people may avoid having to work with you.

1. Bad Attitude

Your attitude affects everything you do. Wherever you go, your attitude follows you. Your attitude can open doors or close doors for you. In fact, a bad attitude is a serious hindrance to your progress.

You can excel at what you do, but if no one can stand your attitude, they’ll avoid collaborating with you. If you’re never open to other people’s ideas or always delaying progress by finding fault with everyone’s suggestions or continually speaking negatively behind people’s back, others will avoid having to work with you. Gosh, they’ll avoid being around you altogether.

If you’ve noticed that people are reluctantly working with you, your attitude may be repelling them. Your attitude matters. When people leave your presence, they remember your attitude more than they remember the details of what you say.

Strive to cultivate a positive attitude: be open to other people’s ideas; be encouraging; seek to support and help others; etc.

2. Incompetence

You can have the best attitude in the world, but if you’re incompetent, people won’t want to work with you. They’ll feel sorry for you but won’t want you on their project because they believe you won’t be able to deliver on your commitments. It’s not that you don’t want to deliver the goods; it’s that you’re unable to (at least that’s what others believe).

Others may acknowledge that you’re a nice person, but they’ll still avoid having to collaborate with you; they won’t want you to become their ball and chain. They’ll go out for coffee with you, but when it comes time to get down to business, they’ll seek to work with someone else: someone who can produce their fair share.

If you’re going to collaborate effectively with others, you must become skillful in your field: you must know your stuff.

Attitude and competence are both critical ingredients to collaborate with others effectively. Both are under your control: you can cultivate a positive attitude and commit to mastering your craft. Any severe deficiency in either cripples you and puts you at a disadvantage in the marketplace.

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Vladimir Elie

I help people learn and apply success principles and strategies so that they can get the results they want in life.