A Simple Way to Be Comfortable In Any Conversation

Day in and day out, you interact with people, most of whom are people you know fairly well. However, from time to time, you have to spend time with someone you’re less familiar with, and finding things to talk about may not come naturally to you.

These situations may make you feel uncomfortable. And if you’re an introvert, you may even avoid putting yourself in those situations. You think to yourself, “I have nothing interesting to say anyway…”

Unless you become a recluse, you’ll interact with a variety of people, and some of which aren’t part of your inner circle. Becoming comfortable with having conversations with others is a precious skill.

A simple way you can use to remain comfortable in any conversation is to make the conversation about the other person. In fact, instead of monopolizing the conversation and making it all about you (i.e. about what you’ve done, whom you know, or what you like), make the conversation about them (i.e. about who they are, what they’ve done, what they like, etc.).

Don’t try to impress them with your extensive knowledge and all your great achievements. Instead, seek to find ways for them to impress you. In other words, ask good questions (and follow-up questions) that allow them to shine by sharing the best of whom they are. In the process, you might learn a lot.

When they speak, listen to them intently, seeking to better know and understand them. Stay present in the conversation. Don’t check out, thinking about what you’re going to say next or what you’re going to do later. Focus on the conversation and make them shine.

It’s true that sooner or later, you’ll have to speak. It’s not a monologue after all; it’s a conversation. When you speak, seek to bring value to your interlocutor. You can add value to them by providing them with interesting information, practical advice and insights, or offering them words of encouragement.

When you remove the spotlight from you and place it on them, you remove the pressure of having to perform and focus on making your conversation meaningful.

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Vladimir Elie

I help people learn and apply success principles and strategies so that they can get the results they want in life.