How To Deal With Negative People – Part 2

Simon has been in your circle of friends for years. However, every time he joins the group in an activity, you feel anxious. He spends most of the time complaining about something or someone.

When he’s not criticizing the government, he’s grumbling about a coworker or arguing with the group about who’s going to win the Super Bowl. And no matter what others say, Simon is always right—at least in his mind.

Despite your best efforts to stir the relationship in a positive direction by raising the issue with Simon directly (as recommended in part 1 of this series), all your attempts have been like throwing gasoline on a bonfire.

Furthermore, other friends from the group have tried to get Simon to tone it down a notch, but Simon’s sharp tongue slit them all.

Now, you’re at a point where you can’t stand all this negativity anymore.

Stay Away

If you have a “Simon” in your life—a negative person who plague your life—you may need to keep them at bay. I know this may be hard. But it may be the best option if you want to keep your sanity.

That someone played a role in your history doesn’t mean they should continue to play a role in your destiny. That you have a shared past doesn’t mean you should have a shared future. At least, they most likely don’t need to play a lead role in your story.

You decide who you let into your life, and if someone is driving you nuts, then perhaps you shouldn’t allow them into your inner circle. Stay away from toxic people—when you can.

Control Your Reactions

Truth be told, it’s not always possible to get rid of Simon. For instance, Simon might be a family member, and you have to accept the fact that he’s going to be somewhere in the landscape of your life.

Remember this: you don’t control how others act, but you can certainly control how you react. Ultimately, the power is in your hands. Whatever, the Simons in your life say or do, you can always choose how you react.

Don’t labor to change them; you won’t. Let them be. But discipline yourself not to let their negativity pollute your mind. That’s an important discipline to develop, as there are many Simons all over the world and you must learn to keep your heart pure no matter what they say or do.

If you show great inner strength when you’re able to keep your peace and stay positive facing relentless negativity.

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Vladimir Elie

I help people learn and apply success principles and strategies so that they can get the results they want in life.