How to Endure the Painful Process Required to Reach Your Great Goal

When you see a bodybuilder walking around wearing a T-shirt so tight that it’s about to rip, or when you hear a virtuoso pianist whose fingers are flowing on the ivory keys like the current of rapids, or when you savor a salmon dish prepared by a gourmet chef, you know they worked hard (and for a long time) to achieve such results.

You don’t mistakenly believe they were born like this. Rather, you recognize they had to go through a painful process to achieve such delightful results.

The results they now enjoy made the painful process worth it.

You Must Pay the Price

To achieve greatness in your chosen field, you must go through the painful process.

You must drag yourself to the gym and pump the iron—and comply with a strict diet.

You must sit at the piano and break your nails going through your arpeggios and your scales over and over again.

You must go through the rigorous culinary training…

There’s a price to pay. And the price won’t be dropped for you.

The question is: Are you willing to pay it?

Unfortunately, you can’t answer this question with your mouth; you must answer it with your actions.

Many pay lip service and say, “Yes! I’m ready to pay the price.”

But when they get to the gym and begin to sweat, and their muscle begin to shake and ache, and the results don’t come as quickly as they expected, and they are told they can’t eat ice cream; now, their actions begin to say, “No, I’m not willing to pay the that price.”

Actions do speak louder than words—at least in this context. In fact, words mean nothing here. The price is paid by the taking action.

You Can Endure the Process

Like giving birth to a child, the process is painful but not unbearable.

As you endure the process something interesting happens: you build momentum. And with momentum, the process, dare I say, can even become enjoyable. Not that it’s easier. But you begin to appreciate the journey.

You go to the gym, not because you HAVE to, but because you WANT to.

You sit at the piano, not because you HAVE to, but because you WANT to.

You go through the culinary training… because you WANT to.

The process is hard, but you’re enjoying the journey (and you want the result).

The process is excruciating, but making progress is exciting.

Never lose sight of your great goal; the compelling appeal of the goal helps you endure the pain of the process.

Many people say they want to write a book. The problem: the process of writing a book is painful—very painful.

These people want to “have written a book” but they don’t want to go through the excruciating process of putting their ideas on the page.

Because they focus on the painful process rather than on their great goal, they never begin the journey; and if they begin the journey, they give up as soon as they feel pain, which can be very early on.

You set yourself up for failure when your attention is set on the painful process rather than on your great goal.