How to Figure Out Where Your Life Is Heading

Whether you’re aware of it or not, you’re heading in a direction, and at some point, you’ll end up somewhere. That somewhere may or may not be your intended destination.

Not only your life as a whole is heading in a direction, but each area of your life as well: your health, your relationships, your finances, your career, etc.

By setting clear goals, you have a measure of control as to where you end up. Without clear goals, you’ll still end up somewhere, but not somewhere you intended to.

I’m a proponent of intentional living (and of goal-setting). However, to be clear, if you don’t have written goals, it doesn’t mean you’re going to end up at a bad place. It just means you’re going in a somewhat random direction and you’ll end up at a random destination—at least not a pre-planned destination. That’s neither good nor bad.

Having clear goals give direction to your life. However, having clear goals only tell us where you want your life to head, but not necessarily where your life is heading.

When you set the goal, “I want to be a millionaire by age 40.” or “I want to lose 25 lbs by the end of the year.” or whatever other goals you set, it reveals your intent. It reveals what you want to see happen in your life. It points to the direction you desire your life to take.

But does this really reveal the actual direction of your life (or of an area of your life)? Does this reveal where your life is heading? The answer: No. Absolutely not. As I said, it reveals where you’d like to go, but not necessarily where you’re really going.

How do you know where your life is heading? The answer: your actions. It’s your actions that reveal where your life is heading (and where you’ll end up).

Thus, if you want to figure out where your life is heading, look at your actions, especially, your daily routines, your habits; they’ll tell you the real story.

The piece of paper may be saying that you’ll be a millionaire by age 40, but your actions are saying that, at age 40, you’ll be broke, busted, and disgusted. The piece of paper may be saying that you’ll lose 25 lbs by the end of the year, but your actions are saying that you’ll gain an extra 5 lbs by the end of the month.

Your actions don’t lie. They’ll tell the real story, not the fairy tale you wrote on the piece of paper.

Your friend may have never set the goal of losing 25 pounds, but because they change their eating habits (i.e. their actions), they may end up having lost 25 lbs at the end of the year. Why? Their actions.

Your actions are revealing where your life is heading. When you look at your actions, is your life going in the direction of your desired destination? Are your daily routines supporting your goals? Are your habits leading you in the right direction? If not, change them; you change your direction by changing your actions. It matters less what you say; it matters more what you do.