How To Prevent Others From Sabotaging Your Goal

“No man is an island.” This an important lesson to learn, especially when it comes to achieving your goals. Many of the goals you decide to pursue will involve others–at least, they can be enhanced and propelled forward by the involvement of others.

For example, say you set the goal of losing 20 lbs in the next 12 months. You could decide to work on this goal all by yourself, and you would do fairly okay. However, how much more efficient would it be if you enlisted the help of a professional trainer (or a weight loss professional), who knows the ins-and-outs of the weight loss process: the pitfalls, roadblocks, short cuts, stages, etc. I’m sure it would help you tremendously.

Very few goals can be achieved effectively by yourself. As a general rule, you need others to succeed. You do yourself (and your goals) a great disservice.when you insist on journeying alone; there are people who possess the skills and resources to propel you forward at lightning speed.

On the flip side, partnering with the wrong person can jeopardize your goal. For example, if you enlist Joe, the biggest consumer of French fries and donuts you know, to help you lose weight, you’ll most likely find that the number on the scale increases every time you step on it. Joe may be a nice person but he is the wrong person to help you with this goal.

This is perhaps the first way to prevent others from sabotaging your goal: choose who you enlist wisely. Make sure the people you enlist are willing and able to help you achieve your goal. If they’re unwilling or unable, they won’t be of very much help.

Once you enlist the right collaborators to support you in your goal, you must interact with them effectively. In fact, your ability to collaborate effectively with others determine your outcome. If your interactions with others are ineffective, it slows you down and can even put the goal at risk. Therefore, not only do you need to know who to bring along on your journey, but also how to best work with them.

Finally, if people in your close circle aren’t supportive of your goal, it will hamper your goal’s progress. Thus, you would be wise to surround yourself with a support network of people who are genuinely rooting for you and want you to succeed.

Directly or indirectly, other people play a huge role in your achieving your goals. Understanding the role others play in the achievement of your goal is crucial. When pursuing a goal, pay attention to people who could influence your outcome. And, seek for ways to mitigate the influence of the people who can hinder your goal and harness the influence of the people who can move your goal forward.

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Vladimir Elie

I help people learn and apply success principles and strategies so that they can get the results they want in life.