Fostering healthy relationships is an important part of a fulfilled life. We’re made to relate with others in a positive way. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. In fact, sometimes, the wrong kind of people enter our life, and our relationship with them isn’t the most edifying.
A negative relationship is one that prevents you from moving forward: it either pushes you backward or tries to hold you at the same place. It’s a relationship where a lot of withdrawals are made from your emotional account, but no deposits.
The following questions can help you determine whether or not you’re relationship with someone is negative:
- Are you nervous about being in his or her presence (say at a party or a meeting)?
- Are you anxious about answering your phone when you see his or her name on the display?
- Are you drained after spending time with him or her?
- Is your mind strained when you talk to him or her?
- Do you feel that you’re always the one giving and never receiving anything?
- Do you feel that no matter what you do, it’s never good enough?
- Do you catch yourself having imaginary debates and arguments with him or her?
- Do you get tense just thinking about him or her?
I could continue this list of questions, but there are enough questions here to help you recognize if your relationship with a particular person is negative.
Negative relationships sap your energy, quench your creativity, and make you lose your focus. You should seek to limit these relationships in your life. I know it’s not always possible, but you should do your best.
Here are a few recommendations:
- Learn how to build healthy relationships. This will ensure that you’re not part of the problem and contributing to making the relationship a negative one. (More on this here).
- Attempt to stir the relationship in a positive direction. If the other person is close enough to have an impact on you, chances are that you can have an impact on them as well. This gives you an opportunity to positively influence him or her, and stir the relationship in a positive direction.
- Limit your interactions. If the relationship is really bad, and you don’t have the inner fortitude to stir it in a positive direction, your best option may be to limit your interactions with that person. You should invest your energy in people who genuinely care for you and appreciate you.
It’s essential that you recognize the negative relationships in your life, and that you limit the negative influence they have on you. If you can, work at turning these relationships around. But if you can’t, keep your distance (as much as possible).
Question: How do you prevent negative relationships from bringing you down? You can leave a comment below.