Maximize Your Season

When I was single, among other things, I spent full days at public libraries, studying, researching extensively topics of interest to me, reading tons of books. Even after all that time spent at the library, I still had lots of time to “chill” out with my friends and to watch TV and to be involved in my church and to go to the gym and…

When I got married, my life changed; more time had to be dedicated to the business of the home. I had entered a new season of my life, where my number one priority was my wife, and somehow I figured that my wife’s definition of quality time didn’t include time spent roaming at the local library. This new season meant less time at the public library, less time “chilling out” with my friends, a different selection of TV shows…

When I was blessed with children, I was thrust into yet another season of my life, which brought a whole new set of priorities. That meant no time for the public library (unless I was dispatch on mission to get cartoon books…); “chilling out” time became changing-diaper time and cleaning-up-a-mess time; no TV time (unless I was summoned to watch Barbie or Paw Patrol or Peppa Pig or a Disney Movie or Caillou or Dora or Toopy and Binoo or Masha and The Bear or Strawberry Shortcake…).

In hindsight, I’m glad I did what I did while I was still single. At that time, I didn’t really understand how much a marriage and kids would change my life. But they did—big time. Of course, I had the theoretical knowledge that things would change, but there’s nothing like living it.

Now, I see my kids getting older at the speed of light, and it’s dawning on me that, before I know it, they’ll be leaving the nest and building their own families. And yet another season…

Life is a series of seasons. Each season brings its advantages and challenges, its own blessings and lessons to learn. Understanding the season you’re in is vital. When you understand and appreciate your current season, you can make the most of it.

I’ve seen too many people wasting their current season wishing they were in another season. They waste their single years wishing they were married and waste their married years wishing they were single. They sabotaged their single years wanting to get married, and now, they are sabotaging their married years wanting to make up for the season they’ve lost when they were single. This is always a losing proposition. They failed to recognize that the best way to prepare for your next season is by making the most of your current season.

If you haven’t made the most of a previous season of your life, the only way to make up for it is by maximizing your current season. You can’t go back in time and change the past, but you can maximize your present.

My kids are still fairly young and demand time with me. I give it to them gladly, so that by the time they reach the teenage years, I don’t have to introduce myself to them.

Your situation might be very different than mine. In fact, I’m sure it is. Whatever season you’re in, maximize it. No season is better than others; they’re just different. Learn to make the most of each.

Oh, and in all seasons, stay rooted.