The 4 Attributes of Your Attitude – Part 2

You don’t want to be stuck in an elevator (or anywhere for that matter) with someone who has a negative attitude. It would be quite a trying experience should this happen. Never forget that you’re stuck with yourself 24/7 (and other people have to spend time with you). Thus, make sure your attitude remains enjoyable.

In this two-part series, I cover 4 attributes that, when you understand, helps you be better equipped to cultivate a positive attitude. In the previous post, I introduced the first two:

  • Attitude is decision
  • Attitude is emotion

Here, I cover the remaining two attributes.

Attitude Is Reflection

Your attitude affects the way you think, and the way you think affects your attitude. Your thoughts and your attitude work together. You change your attitude by changing your thoughts: your thoughts about yourself; your thoughts about situations; your thoughts about the challenges you face; your thoughts about other people; your thoughts about the government; your thoughts about society; etc.

By reforming your thinking, you reform your attitude. If you discipline yourself to think positive thoughts, you engage in the process of cultivating a positive attitude. The operative word here is “discipline”. It rarely just happens. You must be intentional about keeping your thoughts as positive as possible. If you let your thoughts go wild, they may take you in the vortex of worry or anxiety or other negative thoughts. And once in that vortex, your attitude suffers.

To cultivate a positive attitude, you must control your thinking.

Attitude Is Action

Your attitude affects the way you act. It affects your behavior.

In particular, your attitude affects the way you react to situations. You don’t control the situations you encounter, but you control you react to them. It matters less what happens to you. It matters more how you react to what happens to you.

Two people can go through the exact same situation, but because their attitude is different, have very different reactions to the situation. For example, two people can be waiting for a conference to start; one is sitting there complaining about the tardiness, the other is having a good time. Same situation; different reactions. Attitude drives actions (and reactions).

Monitor how you react to situations in your life; your reactions can help you gain insight into your general attitude. And if your reactions in various context are not serving you, you can learn to change your attitude to a more positive one that will serve you better.

Here you have the 4 attributes of your attitude:

  • Attitude is decision;
  • Attitude is emotion;
  • Attitude is reflection;
  • Attitude is action.

Your attitude is affected by your decisions, your emotions, your thoughts (reflections), and your actions. Because you control all 4 attributes, you have the ability (and responsibility) to change your attitude and make sure that it helps you foster healthy relationships, make a valuable contribution, and make the most of every moment.