Why You’re Struggling to Break Your Bad Habits – Part 3

When a bad habit takes hold of you, it doesn’t want to let go. To break that bad habit, you must put up a fight. And there are many possible reasons for that struggle, which we have been examining in this series.

So far, we discussed two main reasons you might be struggling to break a bad habit:

Both reasons relate to effect the habit produces in your life: the habit gives you pleasure or relieves you from pain.

There’s another family of reasons you struggle to break your bad habits, and these are related to your mindset: your belief system. In this post and the next one, I share the two main beliefs that cause you to struggle to break your bad habits.

The first mindset that makes it hard to break your bad habits is precisely this: you believe it’s too hard. In other words, deep down, you don’t think that you can break that bad habit. And without belief, you won’t foster positive change in your life. Believing that change is possible is a prerequisite to change.

Perhaps there was a time when you believed. But because you’ve wrestled against that bad habit for so long, and all your attempts to break it has led to failure and frustration, you no longer believe you can change. Even if you still have a little spark of belief, you’re so afraid to lose again that you’re paralyzed.

You may have lost many battles, but that doesn’t mean you can’t win the war. You don’t have to throw in the towel and let the bad habit rule (and sabotage) your life. You can continue the fight until it loses its hold on you.

Perhaps you’re struggling to break that bad habit because you’ve adorned it for so long that you now believe it’s a part of who you are. You’ve tried to get rid of it, but it always resurfaced, and you conclude that this bad habit is part of your identity.

That limiting belief makes it impossible for you to free yourself from that bad habit; you can’t deny yourself.

Of course, that’s not true. You’re not your habits. Habits are learned behaviors, and you can learn new (more constructive) behaviors. Therefore, you can break any bad habit that’s plaguing your life.

Yes, breaking bad habits is hard. But it’s not impossible. But you must believe.

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Vladimir Elie

I help people learn and apply success principles and strategies so that they can get the results they want in life.